I have gone through a lot of transitions, changes, thoughts, failures and negatives overall in my life. You know, Adversity. For a very long time, I relied on my relationship with my children to keep me going. I know it seems kind of odd, but for a period of time-I did not believe that my existence would matter regardless. I experienced my mom dying, my dad dying, losing my best friend, divorce, new marriage, more kids, all while fighting demons inside my head.
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I have never used my demons as leverage against anyone, it is not anyone else’s fault that I sometimes encourage them….to play with a broken toy. That is NOT to say however, that I have not compared some of the past to current situations.
Some of us have absolutely lost faith in humanity….especially men. The economic market is garbage, people still want to work from home-but there is not a need so much for it anymore. Toss in the fact that 90% of the workforce is now “over-qualified” as a result of training, companies do not want to hire them as they are risky hires.
Throw in age, and a volatile market, and old school are definitely overqualified, and companies do not care. They are working on aligning their “loss” from the pandemic still. Not concerned whether “Walter in receiving has a masters degree in” whatever, unless the masters is specifically aligned with the company-it is just a piece of paper. I spoke to a recruiter today at length regarding this very issue. What hurts YOUR BUTT, is just business. If your name isn’t on the building, it matters even less.
It is indeed-a real issue.
When we started our tour, we had planned a year to do it. I wrote a book, got the wiggles out and work on some things for myself and my family. The next opportunity in life that I will have to do this, will be 20 plus years from now, when I retire. My kids will be grown by then. I have 40 messages right now in my inbox-telling me “thank you for your interest but we are going with a different candidate”. I need to put out 41 more resumes.
For those that provide for so many years for their family to see this insumountable failure on a redundant basis, can absolutely skew the mentation of an individual, regardless of their “sex”. This is a mental health crisis as well. People are quick to dismiss that too-but money truly is, the route of all evil. Noone gives a shit about apology anymore, or sincere intentions-they want law suits and entitlements because they act on greed, instead of understanding or helping the mind. I have been sued for $50 and I have been sued for $50k and the outcome was the same-the relationship was soiled.
I am writing this right now, because in the past-I would have quickly contemplated adverse outcomes……but-my kids.
I have 4 more kids now, since those tumultuous times. Nothing surrounding me has changed. I have a grandchild due in a couple weeks, I have 3 beautiful kids, just starting life. I need to get them enrolled, and to the doctor, my wife needs tags for her car, I need this, our teen needs that………sound familiar?
When I tell clients that they can and will overcome adversity, they often are skeptical. Putting plans into action and making things happen, is the opposite of curling up into a ball and falling asleep for days on end.
I want to do just that, daily (sleep). Depression SUCKS. Anxiety SUCKS. Bill Collectors SUCK. Our past…..sucks!
I stumbled across this video a few days ago, and put it in my bookmark tab so that I could share it. I am not at risk for self-harm. I am sharing information to encourage the masses. One day, everything will be worth the hell we go through. One day……
Make that day-everyday instead. You don’t have to be 100% happy with the outcome of the day, just parts of it. That should satisfy you more than having a day completely ruined over something so small as a stain on the floor, or a piece of cloth. Some people don’t realize that what they see and what is real….isn’t always co-existent. Please, take a look at this video and see what they are talking about. Ask, reach out, help!
Thank you,
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